In the past few months I have really jumped into Twitter and have been lucky enough to find MANY people that have been a great support for me. Many of these are fellow spoonies and I find it a quick and easy way to get advice or just vent about my issues at the moment. For me, especially since I have been having some emotional issue due to lack of medication, it has been very therapeutic. So the event s that unfolded today stuck me as very odd.
Recently I have started following a fellow lupie Emily (@mamasick). And for the most part I really enjoy reading about her life and seeing her view on the world. Yes I will admit (even though I plan on sending her a link to this post specifically) that in my “altered” state of mind right now that I have felt slightly annoyed by somethings she has mentioned. But I have kept it to myself and equated it to the times that I felt the same way with some of my oldest and dearest friends, I knew it would pass. And it did, within a very short amount of time too. I was extremely happy for her when she tweeted a link to the first post in her own, independent blog. Apparently others who follow her weren’t so happy. Some comments were at best spiteful. I don’t know if they were made because of resentment or if this person just wanted to be mean but they were made nonetheless.
What seems worse to me is that these comments were made by a fellow Lupus sufferer. They should have know that every one’s situation is different and we have ABSOLUTELY NO RIGHT to judge how another person deals with their illness or their lives for that matter. We don’t know ANYTHING about the people in our lives. This may sound weird coming from someone who has been with the same man for nearly 13 years and while I know him very well I will never be able to know exactly what he goes through day to day because I am not him. It was obvious from the comments that this person has been following Emily for quite some time know and is noticeably irritated with her situation, so my only questions are: why continue to follow her? why even go to her blog for that matter? were they just waiting for the perfect moment to publicly scorn her? I have always been of the mindset that if you have something that could be potentially hurtful or harsh to say to someone you should do so privately. It is common courtesy to use some discretion when you are talking about touchy subjects. So it seems odd to me that a grown woman would choose to do such a thing to another person. To me that is no better than being a school yard bully.